"There are still a few skeptics who don't believe that there are certain problems that are attached to gender. But, as women, we surely know differently. We are socialized so totally different from the male in our culture that we do have certain issues that belong solely to us because we are women."
REVIEWS - What Members Have to Say:
TeddyBear: The fact that I was chosen to present this booklet is an irony. When I was looking through the list of booklets, choosing the ones I was going to order, I mentally omitted this one. Why do I need a booklet on the problems of gender? What does that have to do with why I drink? How will that help me not drink? I know what it is like to be a woman in today’s world. Harrumph! I went down the list, made my choices, clicked the box to get the total and paid for my order. When the order arrived, you guessed it; the booklet was in the box. I quickly reviewed the shipping list thinking an error had been made. I was surprised; evidently no error had been made because the confirmation slip I had and the shipping order agreed. I had ordered it, must have been gremlins. My logical self concluded I could not ask for my money back because I had ordered it and, since I had it, I might as well look through it. I began to read. To say that, at the beginning, I was skeptical and detached would be an understatement. I read about the early socialization of girls versus boys. How, if you were a boy, you were someone’s son but to be a girl you were Daddy’s little girl or Mommy’s little helper. We were schooled in being dependent from the day we left the womb. Boys were schooled to be independent, have a strong sense of self and self-worth. The dichotomy took life. My skepticism and detachment faded. I read on. It is no wonder we have poor, even negative, feelings about ourselves and find it difficult to deal when major life changes occur. We have never been given the tools to operate as separate, unique individuals. We learned that we were to be protected and taken care of. We should have no need of coping skills. Life, however, did not abide by these rules. Events such as divorce, widowhood, the high cost of living all put women in larger numbers into the work force. The support structure women enjoyed as “stay-at-home” moms were no longer available. The working environment was not able to provide what was needed. We would find our main coping skills in a bottle. If you can’t deal, just numb the pain, make it all go away. Today, women are taking assertiveness training to learn how to say what they mean and mean what they say. However, we need to temper our drive, capability, competency so as not to be perceived as a *itch. Men are not required to do the same. No one has ever said a man was too driven or too assertive or too anything. We have come to realize that we require closeness and intimacy that is not sexual. We must nurture the men in our lives and ourselves on how to fill the need. If we do not, we will fill the void with alcohol or drugs. Jean points out some constructive ways to fill the voids in our lives. She educates us in how the void was created and how we can counter the damage and the hopelessness. She lays out how we can turn ourselves into self-confident women with a high level of self-esteem. If you are curious how this can happen, I encourage you to get the booklet and read it. I will share with you that the answers are within the “New Life” Program, especially the aspects defined in Statements #1, #2, #4, #5 and #12. The specifics are yours to be had within the pages of this publication. I saw myself, my childhood growing up between two brothers in a family embedded in the traditions of male dominated cultures within these pages. I began to identify my pain and move from resentment to resilience. I felt hopeful and confident that happiness is attainable. I am creating a life that is a true expression of my competence, capability, compassion and caring. I am sculpting a life that includes passion, fulfillment, integrity and serenity. If you have not read this booklet, I believe there is much to gain by investing in it and reading it. You may find that you need to read it more than once to get all that Jean has put within to learn and grow by.
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