This booklet is all about the woman alcoholic - what she is experiencing and how she can change her life.
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TeddyBear: The focus of this booklet is tracing the progression of the disease of alcoholism in a woman’s life. The alcoholic woman does not just suddenly appear. She goes through a process that has definite phases. The duration of each phase varies from woman to woman; but, the illness has a generally predictable course. The number of women alcoholics is not known; but, the illness is more pervasive than publicly acknowledged. The alcoholic woman almost certainly drinks to fill voids in her life and, therefore, to mask the pain and render impotent her low self-esteem. She may initially appear to drink normally. She drinks to not feel and when the alcohol wears off, she drinks again. This pattern plays over and over and can go on for an extended period of time. The next phase is entered into when her main purpose in life changes or disappears. She finds herself without direction. She now drinks in greater quantity and begins to find acceptable ways to drink more while others drink normally. She finds varied and frequent reasons to celebrate. The body is changing also. It actually prompts the progression to the next phase as the alcoholic woman’s drinking goes from maybe a little excessive to compulsive. She has a physical need to drink. Her body rebels when it is not anesthetized. Drinking is now the center of her existence. She is consumed by thoughts of it. She is obsessed with it. She may begin to experience hangovers and may require that “medicinal” drink to control withdrawal symptoms. Her addiction may not yet be obvious to the people who know her. In this particular phase, she is able to carry on with her facade of a “normal” existence. She may even appear to be a super woman. Her addiction is well managed. Her performance is worthy of an Oscar. She now rationalizes that if she goes to many different locations and creatively disposes of the evidence, no one will know her secret. She begins to isolate and keeps a low profile. Drinking is her primary purpose in life. She is consumed by how, when and where to get it, drink it and get rid of the evidence. She does not see what her life has become. The people in her life are now very aware of her drinking and may even be trying to get her to stop. In the next phase, at the times when she has a really bad hangover, she may agree she has a problem. She will experience guilt and remorse. She is caught in the spiral of self-deceit, feeling bad, resolving to fix it, giving in to the cravings and then drinking more to dull the pain of failure. She considers asking for help but isn’t quite ready to acquiesce to needing help. The last phase is comprised of two choices: life or death. If she makes the choice to quit, she then enters into a lifetime of recovery. Her recovery starts with quitting. She then must learn to cope with the things of life in positive and more productive ways without alcohol. This is a life-long commitment for the alcoholic. She can only continue to live through abstinence. She will discover the person she was meant to be as she grows emotionally and spiritually and no longer even thinks of alcohol. She has gone from victim to victor. Yes, I know this is a long summary but it is a booklet with much substance. There is a lot to absorb, to learn, to wrap your mind around and take in. Did reading this booklet have an impact on me? You bet! I could identify with the phases as they occurred in my first active alcoholic life and as they occurred in my second active alcoholic life. The phases were definitely more compressed and acute the second time around as I went through them all in less than two years. While reading this booklet, the ability to see in writing what had happened, how my life was turned upside down, gave me hope. I came away with an understanding that I wasn’t alone and that I could prevail. I did not have to remain a victim. I could become victorious. I wanted a life filled with joy and it all had to start with accepting the fact that I have a life-threatening problem. I could see that if I did not choose life, then alcohol would be the cause of my death. How about you? Do you want life? Did this booklet help you choose life? If so, why not share how it helped. If you have not read the booklet, I encourage you to do so. You may find a skeleton key that opens the door to your New Life Journey and enables you to fully embrace the first Statement “I have a life-threatening problem that once had me.” This is one of many booklets available through WFS to help you on your New Life Journey. In the back of the booklet is a synopsis of the Women for Sobriety Program, the Levels of Recovery program and each of the 13 Statements. Each level is summarized with an explanation of the statement or statements relevant to that level. Recommendations for readings within the levels are also given. There is a brief biography of the founder, Dr. Jean Kirkpatrick.
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