"The first year will be so involved for you with changing yourself and changing your patterns and changing your life, that you will have a very busy, complex year. When we put down that drink, all we have actually done is stopped drinking...It's the part that follows that becomes our big hill to climb over." [This is also available on CD by Jean: http://www.wfscatalog.org/The-First-Year-CD-CD104.htm.]
REVIEWS - What Members Have to Say:
CapableMarie: I am so excited to write about this precious booklet! For me, it ranks right up there with the Program Booklet, Turnabout, and Goodbye Hangovers, Hello Life as essential WFS reading. Jean begins by reminding us that our drinking was a big part of our life, of who we had become, and we can’t expect to change our lives or ourselves overnight. Yet, that is just what we do. We stop drinking, get through the first weeks or month, and expect that we can join the rest of the world as a non-drinker, fresh and ready to go. It doesn’t quite work that way. And it doesn’t help that others expect us to be “back to normal” sooner than we can. On the outside, we seem healed... or at least we are sober. On the inside, there is still a lot going on. I will celebrate my own first year this summer, and what this booklet does for me is to remember that I am in recovery. Jean writes that we drank in part because we didn’t like ourselves. This is certainly true for me. The first year is hard because we haven’t had the time yet to figure out who we want to be now that we’re sober, much less genuinely like this new person. So we are sober in a self and body that are truly recovering and not yet whole. We feel fragmented. Lost. Sometimes I even feel a bit unreal, as if I don’t quite have my feet on the ground. The first year has moments of exhilaration and great joy. After all, we have quit drinking! It seems miraculous sometimes. But there are also moments that are quite simply very, very hard. We are doing a lot of work, most of which is internal and unseen. We are tired. We are also more than a little scared. It’s all okay. That’s what The First Year booklet tells me. What I’m going through is normal. I am okay. The booklet also offers advice on smoking and caffeine and sugar (you can probably guess what it is), and it ends with an overview of the WFS Levels of Growth.
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