No matter how many times you may have tried, this time you can succeed with the suggestions in this booklet. [There is also a CD that Jean recorded on this topic: http://www.wfscatalog.org/So-You-Want-To-Quit-CD-CD105.htm.]
REVIEWS - What Members Have to Say:
Review: This twenty-page booklet is a no-nonsense discussion of the ultimate question each alcoholic woman faces at some point in her drinking career: Do you really WANT to quit? Just how serious are you about this? Can you admit that what you may be looking for is a way to keep drinking without the consequences? I can best review this essay by describing my own reactions to Jean’s words. I bought this booklet when I got my Beginner’s Special, and it was the first thing I read. More than any of the other readings, it summarized, for me, the key issue of whether or not I was prepared to admit that I had a drinking problem, and accepting that, was ready to finally stop. Right up front, Jean addresses our resistance to accepting that we are alcoholics. Her 20-question test is prefaced by a comment that reading the book would be a waste of time if the reader isn’t an alcoholic, so let’s settle that question before we go any further. I answered “yes” to nine of the twenty questions; looking back now from four years out, I can see that even then, I was not entirely honest. The clarity that comes with recovery is sometimes a bit startling! With the compassion and wisdom that are the hallmarks of a 4C woman, Jean led me through thought processes that left no doubt in my mind that…
I am, indeed, an alcoholic.
The ambivalence and denial that I was experiencing were not only normal, but were further evidence that I did, indeed, have a drinking problem.
That my drinking had consequences that were only going to get worse unless I stopped.
That there is no one “right” way to stop. Some can stop cold turkey; some limp, falter, or fall before they achieve lasting sobriety. It’s the stopping that counts, not how we do it.
That sobriety does not need to be terminally sober. It is a means to recovery, and a peace of mind that is hard to imagine in the early days of sobriety, when the body is struggling with change and the mind with anxiety.
That my drinking had been a means to cope with problems in my life, many of which were made more complicated by my perceptions of myself as a failure, a victim, or one with no choice or authority. Jean points out that drinking to cope only gave us one more thing to have to cope with: the drinking itself.
Jean concludes this essay with wonderful words of encouragement, assurances that not only could I rid myself of the burden of alcohol, but that by doing so I would be a happier woman. Until I read those words, I had been resisting stopping because I felt it would be a life sentence to a dull life, a loss, a deprivation. Jean makes it very clear that recovery equals hope and promise, fulfilled potential, and the ability to love ourselves and others in ways that were impossible when we were drinking. Like most of Jean’s writing, this essay is straightforward, personal, conversational, and right on the mark. It’s a succinct description of the alcoholic woman’s reluctance to accept that she has a problem, a discussion of the conditioning that leads to resistance, and the hope and assurance of a happier life in recovery. It was me in a nutshell; and, now, four years later I am immensely grateful for this little purple booklet.
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